You write so simply and so profoundly, Raman. Thank you.
It is indeed the things we do daily with intention and over time, often without fanfare or need for attention, that provide longed-for change and self-defined tranquility, happiness, and peace. Those we dearly love and those we barely know benefit too.
What stays with me from your essay is the image of you hugging your sons and not letting go first; the symbolism and beauty of that gesture is potent. I can imagine how safe and loved they must feel. You are providing an environment of tranquility for them to thrive. At the same time, they are independent young men, who must feel free to pull away first, and that they do.
In Buddhist practice, it is suggested you start the day by saying, "I MAY die today", so that each moment becomes a precious jewel to be savored.
You are so correct. To remind one self of impermanence is so powerful. Thank you for such a lovely comment. I am grateful for you and our reconnection.
This "The resentment I carry often masks something simpler: a boundary I didn’t set or a need I was too afraid to name. What about you? But, what about the people who resent you? Did you change without their permission? Did you refuse to play the role they cast you in?"
This last week was hard. Resentment, carried anger: When I put it down, it was exactly what you said - a boundary I didn't set, and a need, that I thought would be met when I need help most wasn't. And I felt betrayed. But that was the feeling and emotion. And digging into I is when I realized what it actually was.
It was followed by stepping back, reassessing, and walking away from a role I had allowed myself to be cast in, that didn't go over well for those that wanted me in it. And the permission to change and set boundaries, led to silence. Which is okay, it was time to walk into another place. And for that, I was grateful.
Experience is a great teacher. There is no fast way to learn some of these lessons. There is no hack, just reflection, recognition, reorganization, reprioritization, on
Such a profound message. I made a coffee, sat outside for a quiet few minutes and this was the first thing that I opened on my phone. It’s now the last thing I’m opening. Instead, I’ll start my day with something focused and purposeful. Thank you for the message, the reminder and the perspective. I’ll take this one far into summer. Hope you are doing great Raman.
Thank you Alexis. Your message means so much and I am grateful that you shared it with me. Please share the post with anyone else you think would benefit from reading it too.
You write so simply and so profoundly, Raman. Thank you.
It is indeed the things we do daily with intention and over time, often without fanfare or need for attention, that provide longed-for change and self-defined tranquility, happiness, and peace. Those we dearly love and those we barely know benefit too.
What stays with me from your essay is the image of you hugging your sons and not letting go first; the symbolism and beauty of that gesture is potent. I can imagine how safe and loved they must feel. You are providing an environment of tranquility for them to thrive. At the same time, they are independent young men, who must feel free to pull away first, and that they do.
In Buddhist practice, it is suggested you start the day by saying, "I MAY die today", so that each moment becomes a precious jewel to be savored.
You are so correct. To remind one self of impermanence is so powerful. Thank you for such a lovely comment. I am grateful for you and our reconnection.
I love the sentiment
This "The resentment I carry often masks something simpler: a boundary I didn’t set or a need I was too afraid to name. What about you? But, what about the people who resent you? Did you change without their permission? Did you refuse to play the role they cast you in?"
This last week was hard. Resentment, carried anger: When I put it down, it was exactly what you said - a boundary I didn't set, and a need, that I thought would be met when I need help most wasn't. And I felt betrayed. But that was the feeling and emotion. And digging into I is when I realized what it actually was.
It was followed by stepping back, reassessing, and walking away from a role I had allowed myself to be cast in, that didn't go over well for those that wanted me in it. And the permission to change and set boundaries, led to silence. Which is okay, it was time to walk into another place. And for that, I was grateful.
Experience is a great teacher. There is no fast way to learn some of these lessons. There is no hack, just reflection, recognition, reorganization, reprioritization, on
repeat.
Thank you for the powerful life reminders! I needed this today!
Such a profound message. I made a coffee, sat outside for a quiet few minutes and this was the first thing that I opened on my phone. It’s now the last thing I’m opening. Instead, I’ll start my day with something focused and purposeful. Thank you for the message, the reminder and the perspective. I’ll take this one far into summer. Hope you are doing great Raman.
Thank you Alexis. Your message means so much and I am grateful that you shared it with me. Please share the post with anyone else you think would benefit from reading it too.